classic waka stream

If I write, you say too much;
if I do not, you resent me—
Musashi stirrups
hanging on either side:
is it at such a time that one must die?

Meaning
If I write, you say it is too much; if I do not write, you resent me—like Musashi stirrups hanging on either side. Is it at such a time as this that one must die?
Commentary
Episode Thirteen: "Musashi stirrups"

A man in Musashi wrote to a woman in the capital, saying in his letter, "If I speak of it, it is shameful; if I do not speak, it is painful," and on the outside he wrote "Musashi stirrups."
In reply, the woman wrote, "Though you hang your Musashi stirrups in earnest and place your trust in me, not to write is cruel, and to write is vexing too," expressing her feelings that even receiving his letters was troublesome.
The man, unable to bear it, composed this poem.

Because the woman had appealed to her feelings using words associated with Musashi stirrups and pivot-words, the man laments, "Is it at such a time that one must die?"
Source
Ise Monogatari
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